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1. LISTEN!!! If we show children that we believe what they
have to say is important and we truly listen, then we will
increase trust and communication.
2. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS FOR CHILDREN! Learn what is
typical behavior at various ages. Also, learn your child's
strengths, weaknesses, and individual personality and adjust
your expectations accordingly.
3. SET CLEAR LIMITS. Keep it simple. For example: "It is not
O.K. to hit. Use your words."
4. USE POSITIVE DIRECTION INSTEAD OF NEGATIVE STATEMENTS.
Instead of: Don't touch anything, you're all dirty! Try: Please
wipe your hands on this towel.
5. DON'T GIVE TOO MANY INSTRUCTIONS AT ONCE.
6. AVOID TALKING ABOUT CHILDREN IN THEIR PRESENCE, UNLESS YOU
ARE DISCUSSING POSITIVE BEHAVIORS OR CHARACTERISTICS.
7. DISCUSS ADULT ISSUES AWAY FROM CHILDREN. This will help
preserve their innocence.
8. BE A GOOD MODEL. Children idolize and imitate their parents.
9. PARENTING IS HARD WORK! Give yourself plenty of breaks!
10. SHOW AFFECTION AND SHARE POSITIVE THOUGHTS ESPECIALLY DURING
HELLOS AND GOODBYES.
11. MONITOR YOUR CHILD'S ENTERTAINMENT: movies, TV, video games,
music, internet, etc… to make sure the material is appropriate
for their age level.
12. EXPRESS CONFIDENCE IN YOUR CHILD'S ABILITIES.
13. AVOID CORPORAL PUNISHMENT OR SHAMING THE CHILD.
14. PLAN AND UTILIZE POSITIVE BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES
SUCH AS TIME OUT, OR MEANINGFUL CONSEQUENCES.
15. FOR EVERY "NO" OFFER 2 ACCEPTABLE CHOICES. For example: No
Johnny, that book is for teachers. You can have this book or
that book.
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